18. May 2012

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Your Anchor: Don’t leave port without Him!

Have you once and for all settled the question, do you belong to God?  Are you going to Heaven?  Are you a child of God? Is Jesus Christ really your personal Lord, Savior, and Master? Who is your anchor in life? When all else fails you, will your anchor also fail you?  When others betray and lie to you, will your anchor do likewise? Consider the following questions in light of what the Bible says:      

1. Where did you come from?

  • God loves you and created you to know Him personally. He is loving and true and would never lie to you.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life”.  (John 3:16)

“Now this is eternal life: that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent.”  (John 17:3)

  • The One True God of the Bible who loves you, formed you in your mother’s womb.

“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”    (Psalm 139:13,14)


2. If God has created you and loves you, what is preventing you from knowing Him intimately?

God wants to give you a fresh start.  A clean slate is just a prayer away.

  • You are sinful and separated from God, so you cannot know Him intimately or experience His saving, keeping, and protecting love.

“For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,”    (Romans 3:23) “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.”   (Romans 6:23)

  • Just as fire and gasoline cannot be together, those who have the stain of sin can never be in the presence of a holy, sinless, and perfect God.

“our God is holy.” (Psalm 99:9b) “the stain of your guilt is still before me,” (Jeremiah 2:22b)

  • You must be pardoned. Your sin must be forever washed away.
  • God created man to have fellowship with Him, but due to his own stubborn self-will, he chose to go his own independent, selfish way, and fellowship was broken. This self-will, characterized by an attitude of active rebellion or passive indifference, is an evidence of what the Bible calls sin.

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God is holy and man is sinful. A great gulf separates the two. The arrows illustrate that man is continually trying to reach God and establish a personal relationship with Him through his own efforts, such as a good life, philosophy, or religion— but he inevitably fails.

3. If there were only One Way to bridge this gulf, would you want to know it? 

In 1830, George Wilson was tried by the U.S. court in Philadelphia for robbery and murder and was sentenced to hang. Andrew Jackson, President of the United States, granted him a presidential pardon. But Wilson refused the pardon, insisting it was not a pardon unless he accepted it. The question was brought before the U. S. Supreme Court, and Chief Justice John Marshall wrote the following decision: “A pardon is a paper, the value of which depends upon its acceptance by the person implicated. It’s hardly to be supposed that one under sentence of death would refuse to accept a pardon, but if it is refused, it is no pardon. George Wilson must hang.” What was the outcome? George Wilson was hanged.¹

  • Jesus Christ is God’s only provision for man’s sin. Through Him alone we can know God intimately, be fully pardoned for our sin, and experience His unconditional love.

“Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved.”     (Acts 4:12)

  • He died in our place and rose from the dead.

“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”  (Romans 5:8)

“Christ died for our sins…He was buried…He was raised on the third day according to the Scriptures. He appeared  to Peter, then to the twelve. After that He appeared to more than five hundred.”        (1Corinthians 15:3-6)

  • He is the only way to God.

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This diagram illustrates that God has bridged the gulf that separates us from Him by sending His Son, Jesus Christ. He chose to die on the cross in our place to pay the penalty for our sins.

  • Those who love darkness, reject Christ, and refuse His free offer of forgiveness and new life will perish. They will be eternally condemned for their sins. The wrath of God will fall on them.

“They perish because they refused to love the truth and so be saved. For this reason God sends them a powerful delusion so that they will believe the lie and so that all will be condemned who have not believed the truth but have delighted in wickedness.”     (2Thessalonians 7: 10b-12)    

4. What must occur in order for you to be saved from your sins and eternal death and be assured of complete forgiveness and Heaven?

  • You must individually receive Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord. Then you can know God personally and experience His love.
  • You must receive Christ.   {Gladly welcome Him}

“Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.”         (John 1:12)

  • You receive Christ by faith.

“For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God – not by works, so that no one can boast.” (Ephesians 2:8,9)

If someone were to say, “I hope to get to heaven because I’m a pretty good person”.  “I’m hoping the good outweighs the bad”.  How would you respond to this person?

  • When you receive Christ, you experience a New Birth. {Read John 3:1-8 if time permits}
  • You receive Christ by personal invitation.

[Christ speaking] “Behold, I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in…”        (Revelation 3:20    N.K.J.V.)

Receiving Christ involves turning to God from sin and self-rule (repentance) and trusting Christ to come into our lives to forgive us of our sins and to make us what He wants us to be. Just to agree intellectually that Jesus Christ is the Son as of God is not enough. Nor is it enough to have an emotional experience. We receive Christ by faith, as an act of our will.

  • When you receive Christ, a Great Exchange occurs instantly!

First: Jesus takes all of your past, present, and future sin, condemnation and guilt away. Back on that Cross, Jesus removed your sins and placed them on Himself. “When Jesus had received the sour wine, he said, ‘It is finished,’ and he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.” (John 19:30 ESV)  He freed you from the penalty and power of sin.

Second: In exchange, Jesus gives you His righteousness and His life. You are forgiven, unable to be condemned, holy, blameless, pure, and forever innocent of all charges. You have eternal life. God, the Father, now sees you holy and perfect. He loves you the same as He loves Jesus. This exchange is irrevocable. It is finished!

“I delight greatly in the LORD; my soul rejoices in my God. For he has clothed me with garments of salvation and arrayed me in a robe of righteousness, as a bridegroom adorns his head like a priest and as a bride adorns herself with her jewels.” (Isaiah 61:10)     

5. Would you like to receive Christ right now by faith through prayer?

The following is a suggested prayer:

Lord Jesus, I need You. I want to be assured of going to Heaven when I die.   I also want to know You personally.

Thank you for dying on the cross for my sins. I open the door of my life and receive You as my Savior and Lord. Thank You for forgiving me of my sins and giving me eternal life. Take control of the throne of my life. Make me the kind of person You want me to be.

  • Remember: Jesus is now in your life. You belong to Him. He will never leave you nor forsake you. You are God’s own son or daughter. The Bible promises eternal life to all who receive Christ.

Heaven is your new home!

“And this is the testimony: God has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He who has the Son has life; he who does not have the Son of God does not have life. I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life.” (1 John 5:11-13)

“My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. I give them eternal life, and they shall never perish; no one can snatch them out of my hand. My Father, who has given them to me, is greater than all; no one can snatch them out of my Father’s hand.”           (John 10:27-29)

What comfort and assurance is God giving you right now?

1. Please read the following verses out loud.

“All that the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I will never drive away. For I have come down from heaven not to do my will but to do the will of him who sent me. And this is the will of him who sent me, that I shall lose none of all that he has given me, but raise them up at the last day.” (John 6:37-39)

“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”         (Romans 8:38,39)

What doubts might you still have concerning your assurance of your salvation and your eternal security? If you were to die tonight, how assured are you of going straight to Heaven?

0%———25%———50%———75%———100%

2.    Work on memorizing the following definition of Faith. This is the same definition discussed in other chapters of this book. Then discuss it and apply this faith principle to your assurance of being forgiven and going to Heaven someday.

“Faith is choosing to live as though the Bible is true, regardless of circumstances, emotions, or cultural trends.”

Endnote

1 destined for security, “Session 1: Can You Be Secure in Your Relationship with God,”  pages 13-14, Life Builders, Campus Crusade for Christ, 2003

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30. March 2012

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Husbands and Wives: Observe the Shepherd and the Sheep

Around 7:00 PM the flock slowly started back toward their shepherd to be fed and tended to for the night. They had been grazing all day in the pasture. Some liked the hillside while others preferred the grass near the pond.

 

One sheep had developed a few open sores around her nose, mouth, and eyes. Flies had been troubling these raw places of vulnerability. She was in pain. Ahead of the others, she saw her shepherd. He was waiting for her, sitting on a small stool by the open entrance to that wonderful refuge known as the sheepfold; a safe, protected place of refuge and security.

 

She ran to him. The shepherd welcomed her with open arms. The first thing he did was comfort her. Then, one by one, he removed the briars and sticks that had gotten caught in her wool from the day. Finally, he gently looked her over, reached down to a jar in his pocket, and scooped up some homemade salve into his hand. With much kindness and attentiveness, he put ample amounts of the healing balm on each of the sores on the sheep’s head. The relief was instant!

 

The pain subsided and healing began. Best of all, the ointment repelled the flies and other insects. No wonder she wanted to come home! Grain, a loving touch, and safety awaited her in the sheepfold for the night.

 

Husbands and wives, this is a perfect picture of how you both are to treat each other every hour, every day. The roles can easily be reversed in that the sheep could have been male and the shepherd female.

 

If your spouse does not look forward to coming home or having you come home, something is seriously wrong! You and your mate are called and equipped by the Lord, our true Good Shepherd, to comfort each other with grace and acceptance.

 

The 23rd Psalm says:

 

(v.1)  “The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.

(v.2)  He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters,

(v.3)  he restores my soul. He guides me in paths of righteousness for his name's sake.

(v.4)  Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil,

for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.

(v.5)  You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head

with oil; my cup overflows.

(v.6)  Surely goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in

the house of the LORD forever.”

 

Focus in on verse 5 in the middle where it reads, “You anoint my head with oil;” This is what a good shepherd does to sheep when they come home. He puts healing, comforting balm on their sores and troubled areas which are many.

 

Whenever your mate comes to you or when you seek out your mate, ask the Lord Jesus, your Good Shepherd, to anoint your mate’s head with the oil or balm of comfort, empathy, listening, and patient kindness through your countenance and through your touch. God promises to bless you if you do. (1Peter 3:9)

 

God’s Living Word confirms this message.

 

Ephesians 5:21 “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”

 

Galatians 6:2 “Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.”

 

Hebrews 3:13a  “But encourage one another daily,”

 

Isaiah 40:1 “Comfort, comfort my people, says your God.”

 

Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as

in Christ God forgave you.”

 

Luke 6:36 “Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.”

 

 

Just as Jesus, your Good Shepherd, is toward you, so you are to be toward your mate. If you feel he or she does not merit your comfort and kindness, remember that you do not deserve the Lord’s. He gives it to you freely and fully because He loves you unconditionally. His love and care for you are not based on your performance or innate worth. It is based only on His amazing love.

 

Finally, John 13:34 sums up your calling in marriage.

 

"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.”

 

Now, husband or wife, fulfill your calling.

 

 

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23. November 2011

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Home Grown Compassion

Have you ever walked on a pine forest pathway on a beautiful day? Imagine with us for a minute. You are enjoying the soft, pine needles under foot and the tall, evenly space pine trees that reach upward to the brilliant blue sky. As you calmly walk down this verdant path, your eye catches something small but precious. You stop and kneel down to discover a stunning and delicate May Apple blossom.

 

Quietly you confirm once again that God is an artful Creator who showers us with His goodness, His glory, and His majesty. In a similar way, home grown compassion reveals to us our Lord Jesus who is the author of compassion. It is the Lord “who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion,” Psalm 103:4 “The LORD is gracious and righteous; our God is full of compassion.” Psalm 116:5

The Encarta Dictionary defines compassion as, “sympathy for the suffering of others, often including a desire to help.” Like the precious May Flower blossom, compassion in marriage creates a sought after oasis for the needy soul. Looking at many biblical examples, we find that compassion was often bestowed on undeserving, destitute, and sinful people. This is the very compassion and mercy of our Lord toward those who could never perform well enough or measure up high enough to ever merit it. That is all of us.

Working with many marriages and families over the years has been both a rewarding and an insightful experience. Occasionally we come across a May Flower blossom. A kind husband or a supportive wife shows compassion toward his or her mate and this tender fragrance permeates the home. The children like being there because home is safe and secure. Mom and Dad care for each other. They support each other. They never grant conflict a lengthy stay in the Lord’s home. Home is where acceptance and help reside. It is indeed the Lord’s home and the needy souls inside are His guests. Because of this one single quality we see in some mates, we have hope.

Sometimes day after day, week after week, of counseling, training, and mentoring couples in troubled homes, Barbara and I get weary. Some people find it nearly impossible to show compassion and kindness to their mate. Unfortunately, sometimes, judgment and rejection become so ingrained in a husband’s or wife’s heart that living with them is like living with a blast furnace, a porcupine, or a dripping faucet. Some husbands and wives have swallowed the lie that they have every right to ridicule and reject their mate or his or her extended family.

One husband stated, “She doesn’t meet my needs! She is always on my back for something! Surely I deserve better! What’s wrong with her. How come she can’t get her act together like my friend’s wives!” This grieves our Lord. When God brought Barbara into my life 17 years ago, I was a desperate and destitute man. I had lost my wife of 20 years to a difficult 7 year battle to cancer. My nerves were shot. I was depressed and suffered from migraines daily. I begged God for mercy much like Bartimaeus, the blind, poor beggar did in Mark 10:46-52.

I know the Lord is merciful and compassionate toward me not just because His Word says He is but because I, like Bartimaeus, have received it. Not only was Jesus compassionate and merciful in giving me Barbara, but she, time and again, has bestowed mercy on me, a wretched, undeserving man. I am blown away by how kind, forgiving, and helpful she is not just to me but to many others as well. She is a gift from God. She is a home grown, compassionate wife, mother, and friend. I know Jesus lives and is true to His Word. I see Him everyday in our home. I see Him in Barbara. I don’t deserve it. I don’t deserve her. Of course, neither do I deserve what Jesus has done for me. I am grateful.

If compassion is a distant relative that has not been invited over in a long time, ask the Lord to invite His compassion in your heart, your marriage, and “His” home. It might be that your showing compassion in your home will convince others you actually love Jesus, are grateful for His compassion, and that He is worth pursuing. “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32 May God grant you His home grown compassion.

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14. September 2011

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“We were at each other’s throats all weekend!”

Monday mornings are often tough on me. The phone rings, the email arrives, or a text beeps. It is a message from one of the couples we are mentoring on a regular basis. It would not be as difficult if it were just one couple battling each other all weekend. Sometimes we find out additional couples’ homes have been War Zones. Call it:

 

The Weekend War zone!

 

I am beginning to understand how my Lord Jesus must grieve and hurt when I reject His teaching and truth and choose my own self-focused way. You see, these fine couples all know the Lord Jesus as their Savior. We, and other Bible teachers have taught them God’s truth. Yet, they easily reject the truth of God’s Word preferring the ways of their flesh. 1Peter 3:9-12 says,

 

Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult, but with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing. For, “Whoever would love life and see good days must keep his tongue from evil and his lips from deceitful speech. He must turn from evil and do good; he must seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are attentive to their prayer, but the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.” (Bold added)

 

Peter’s message could not be clearer. We profess that Jesus is our Savior, and then we must obey Him in the power of the Holy Spirit.

I asked Bob and Sally who tend to thrive on unresolved conflicts, jealousies, and wrong assumptions, “Is Jesus Lord and Master of your life?”  They both said emphatically, “Yes!”  I told them there is a great disconnect between their profession and their action.

I reminded them once again that if Jesus is Lord and Master of their individual lives and marriage, that means that they have forever chosen to be His bond servants (slaves).

Note Romans 6:16:

Don't you realize that you become the slave of whatever you choose to obey? You can be a slave to sin, which leads to death, or you can choose to obey God, which leads to righteous living. (NLT)  (Bold added)

Now focus on 1Corinthians 7:22:

 

And remember, if you were a slave when the Lord called you, you are now free in the Lord. And if you were free when the Lord called you, you are now a slave of Christ.  (Bold added)

 

It simply amazes Barbara and me sometimes! We share these humble truths from God’s Word with some couples and they look back at us like deer zoning out as car headlights approach. We are finding in this market driven, humanistic, narcissistic culture, many husbands and wives in their so called Christian homes pass everything, including truth from the Bible, through their:

 

PERSONAL GRID OF ACCEPTANCE

 

If they hear anything or learn of any truths that do not promote or protect their shallow, “Me First” mind sets, they quickly reject it in attitude and in action. This immediately promotes isolation, then discouragement, then deception, and finally destruction of what was intended to be God’s holy, sweet and fruitful marriage.

 

The mortal foe of selfless, humble obedience to our Lord Jesus

is self-absorbed, arrogant disobedience.

 

This fleshly, carnal attitude is a major doctrine of demons bent on destroying the glory of God in homes all over the world. This “I’ve got my rights!!!” attitude grieves and quenches the Holy Spirit. 1Thessalonians 5:19 in the King James Version says,

“Quench not the Spirit.” Other versions render it as:

“Do not stifle the Holy Spirit.” (NLT)

“Do not put out the Spirit’s fire.” (NIV)

“Extinguish not the Spirit.” (Douay-Rheims Bible)

 “Do not put out the light of the Spirit;” (Bible in Basic English)

Humbly, I told Bob and Sally several straight forward truths:

 

1.      Your hearts are full of pride, the downfall of everyone.

2.      You both are refusing to “…submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” ( Bold added. Ephesians 5:21)  

3.      You really do not want anyone to be Lord over you.

4.      You are not willing to be a slave to anyone.

5.      You lack a healthy fear of God.

6.      There is no trembling in your soul over offending Jesus.

7.      I asked them, “What is your first love? Who is your King? Who are you subject to and who are you accountable to? Who will you answer to?

 

The room got quiet. Through mostly body language and teary eyes, they softly communicated that the answer needs to be Jesus! I did not say the following but I wanted to say, “Well let’s see what your heart attitudes and heart actions say.”  The Bible says, “When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise”                                                                                                                                           (Proverbs 10:19)

The kind of reverence for the Lord we are talking about comes when you get sick and tired of your self-absorbed, discontentment. This kind of tender love and honor for the Lord Jesus comes only when you forget about and forsake yourself and your rights. It is when you decide that demonstrating real love for Jesus occurs when you issue or return undeserved or unearned blessings to family members.

You must choose to treat your mate and kids the same way Jesus treats you! Their sin, like yours, is an eternal offense against the Living and Almighty, Holy God. Jesus knew apart from His saving, cleansing, and substitutionary sacrifice on the cross, you would most certainly end up in Hell in everlasting punishment.

 

Remember Romans 5:8:

“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

 Live out this love in your home right now. May your family members know this verse is true by the way you treat them. If you say that you reverence Christ, then treat others as He treats you.

When you reverence Christ, your home will begin to have the atmosphere of a:

 

Safe Haven of Refuge

 

May God grant this to all of our homes!

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2. June 2011

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Dad, I Just Want You To Hold Me!

      I remember my Dad, an imperfect but very faithful man. Married almost 61 years, a WWII Medic in the Battle of the Bulge, a Principle for 37 years. A stoic man, not much for emotions but a kind hearted man in so many ways. One day, when I was 27, he and I were arguing about something trivial. I so wanted his approval. I did not understand his language of love.

 

     He stopped abruptly and said in a loud voice, “Jim, What is it that you want from me?!” There in his kitchen I looked at him and blurted out, “Dad, I just want you to hold me!”  He could have shamed me. Instead, he walked over to me and gave me a big old WWII Vet Bear Hug. Our true relationship began.

 

     After that, I did not feel I had to earn his approval anymore. I knew he loved me, and that he was proud of me. We began going out for breakfast together once a week. We became good friends!

 

I did not quite understand how my Heavenly Father loved me. The Faith Principle {Faith is choosing to live as though the Bible is true regardless of circumstances, emotions, or cultural trends} has helped bring His love for me into clear focus. He loves me whether I feel it or not. He loves whether I measure up or not. I’m loved forever! Hugs help too.

 

You know, not only does God want us to show His kind of love to our parents, and our children, but…especially to our mate. Try telling your mate and others this week that you love them huggingly so and that they…

 

Ø  Don’t have to improve

Ø  Don’t have to become better

Ø  Don’t have to measure up

Ø  Don’t have to earn favor through performance

Ø  But that you love them just the way they are and if they get worse, you will never waiver on your love for them.

 

Will you try this? When Jesus commands us to "… Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” (John 13:34), He really means choose right now to pursue the people in your life, rapidly forgive them as Jesus forgave you, and issue kind, supportive, and affirming words, countenance, and loyalty. Yes, there may need to be ‘tough love’ required in some difficult situations. However, in general, we are totally without excuse when we right off a family member, hold grudges, and seek to punish them by slander, insult, rejection, or by giving them the silent treatment!

If you will take this challenge to pursue and issue the same grace filled, forgiving, kind love that Jesus shows you, to your mate, kids, parents, in-laws, and others, please email us at Jim.Grunseth@Cru.Org so we can pray on your behalf. We’re pulling for you.

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28. April 2011

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A Certain Loneliness (for those of you who are serving in the military)

Written by Linda Montgomery, Military Ministry, Campus Crusade for Christ,

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The final words of Jesus before He ascended:

“I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”

— Matthew 28:20

Let’s admit it—there is a certain loneliness that comes with military service. Deployment brings geographic separation from loved ones. And even when there is camaraderie in the deployed unit, one can still feel a certain loneliness which accompanies maintaining a constant alert at a remote location or experiencing encroaching fear in battle. Even when home there is a certain isolation which can occur because loved ones might not understand or appreciate the mission and calling . . . . especially given the demands on schedules and families because of the ops tempo. So whether active duty or the spouse of an active duty service member, loneliness can accompany the realities of aloneness, even if surrounded by others.

So I don’t think we can remind one another too often that we are never alone. The presence of God is real and sure, and Easter week is a good time to say it again.

“God’s very presence is his greatest gift to us. And yet I think it is a gift that most of us have never fully unwrapped. We’ve simply never embraced it for all of the intense joy and comfort it can give us. Maybe it’s because we haven’t believed the presence of God is enough to soothe and satisfy us. . . .the Bible, from beginning to end, is a story of God extending himself, lowering himself, sacrificing himself, so that you and I can know and experience the fulfillment of a relationship with him, the satisfaction and safety of his very presence. It is God telling us over and over again that he wants to be with us.”

Nancy Guthrie in The One Year Book of Hope, pgs. 105,106.

That intimacy, made very real in the power of the Holy Spirit, is such a gift. With it comes peace in the midst of chaos, security in the midst of danger, comfort in the midst of pain, reassurance in the midst of loneliness.

Two of my favorite “presence” reminders are from early chapters in the Old Testament. Jacob is alone at Bethel when God meets him in a dream and says,

“I am the LORD, the God of your father Abraham and the God of Isaac. I will give you and your descendants the land on which you are lying. Your descendants will be like the dust of the earth, and you will spread out to the west and to the east, to the north and to the south. All peoples on earth will be blessed through you and your offspring. I am with you and will watch over you wherever you go, and I will bring you back to this land. I will not leave you until I have done what I have promised you.”When Jacob awoke from his sleep, he thought, “Surely the LORD is in this place, and I was not aware of it.” — Genesis 28:13-16

Later, in Exodus 33, Moses expresses his concern to the LORD about leading the Israelites out of Egypt and into the Promised Land. Who would go with him to guide and help? “The LORD replied, ‘My Presence will go with you, and I will give you rest.’” — Exodus 33:14

It is a lie that we are alone. As Christians, we are never alone. Satan would desire to create isolation in our minds and hearts, which then leads to discouragement, deception, and destruction.

Psalm 139 is the ultimate “presence” reminder. . . . and I believe speaks to our military forces who might be experiencing loneliness in the air, sea, or ground battles or even alone at home:

“Where can I go from Your Spirit? Where can I flee from Your presence? If I go up to the heavens, You are there (sounds like Air Force to me!); If I make my bed in the depths (could that be a submarine?), You are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn (up early at home?), if I settle on the far side of the sea (our ground troops?), Even there Your hand will guide me, Your right hand will hold me fast.” —Psalm 139:7-10

And for a last reminder: One of the greatest commanders in the Old Testament was Joshua. When the Israelites were re-entering the land as the LORD had promised Jacob in the quote from Genesis 28, he encouraged them with these words,

“Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the LORD your God will be with you wherever you go.” — Joshua 1:9

Good words then. . . .good words now . . . .good words wherever you are in the world tonight. You are never alone if you know the presence of God.

Work cited: Guthrie, Nancy, The One Year Book of Hope (Carol Stream: Tyndale House Publishers, Inc., 2005)

Questions to Share:

1. Do you know God’s Son, Jesus Christ, as Lord and Savior? If not, then you are wrestling with unforgiven sin. Why not settle this once and for all and make this the best Easter of your life!

Go to:

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Godlovesmarines.com

Godlovessailors.com

Godlovesairmen.com

Godlovescoastguardsmen.com

2. Are feelings of loneliness predictable? Write out some promises of God’s presence and bring them out as a reminder when those feelings come—or, better yet, memorize them to combat the enemy when he would tell you the lie of loneliness.

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Jim’s Story

“I craved respect and approval …sin had its hold on me.”
Although I became a Christian at 18, I did not really get serious about the Lord until much later. As a young husband and father, my family suffered because I was carnal and double minded. I wanted to follow God but I also craved the respect and approval of people. My priorities were out of balance and sin had its hold on me. We were all fairly miserable. I regret those sins. God began to humble me and break down my pride in my late 20’s. Soon after I turned 30, I renewed my vows to the Lord and committed to full time, vocational ministry.
Five years later, we moved to Illinois so I could attend seminary. The moving van that we hired to transport all of our belongings went up in flames during some repair work. We were lied to and cheated by this moving company. It took three years to get it settled. This crisis took up much of my time during my first year of seminary.
At the beginning of my final year of school, Julie was diagnosed with lupus, sojgrens syndrome, and, worst of all, advanced breast cancer. It was as if our hopes, plans, and dreams, were crystal figurines being smashed by a brutal sledgehammer. No matter how you look at it, cancer is an awful and sadistic disease. It not only eats away at the person it is ravaging, but it also eats away at the whole family. Relationships are strained. Emotions become wooden and empty. Anger and fear become the norm. Exhaustion is standard. Cancer lives with you.
Through eight surgeries, four regimens of chemotherapy, three separate hair losses, and months in hospitals, a frightening bone marrow transplant, and five unsuccessful trips to Bethesda, Maryland (National Cancer Institute), Julie fought her disease with courage maintaining her faith in God. Many were strengthened by her bravery. The chemotherapy helped to extend her life but it was devastating to her and to the rest of us.
She suffered from severe depression at times and experienced terrible mood swings that made living in our home difficult. On a regular basis, she would cycle into a destructive, violent rage. Other times she could be very pleasant. Then, when least expected, her mood would change and she would beat, kick, and claw me. I should have called 911 and gotten her help many times. But I failed to do so.
You see I was trying to protect and preserve our image as the wonderful, suffering missionary family. Worse, I resisted getting her professional help because, deep inside, I thought the town’s people and church family would think I was a bad husband. I thought if I were the husband God wanted me to be, Julie would respond with grace, kindness, and a stable emotional frame of mind. She suffered from a bi-polar disorder of some type. Her extended family refused to believe that she was mentally unstable. I begged them for help. My pleas fell on deaf ears.
Frequently, our home was filled with chaos, tension, and anger outbursts. One minute she would be stable and the next she would fall apart. The four kids and I, along with Julie, were on one big roller coaster.
On top of all this, I felt utterly helpless. I was with Julie almost constantly for seven years during this battle, but I could not help her. I could not heal her. The Lord knows I tried just about everything known to man. The suspense of not knowing when the cancer would strike again or take her life was like swimming in dark waters with that shark from "Jaws" near us.
We could never escape its presence or its influence. I once described living with long term cancer in our family as living with an evil, vindictive presence holding all of us hostage. Even when we went on vacation, "it" came with us. It controlled the life of our family. It was a cruel and terrifying time.
We put our trust in the Lord but the stress of seeing my wife and the mother of my children slowly melt away like a Popsicle on a hot day, gnawed at me relentlessly. I developed severe migraine headaches that lasted 24 hours a day for two years. The pain wrestled me to the floor many times. I became depressed and exhausted, weary beyond words. My heart became like wood. Life to me had the taste of sawdust. I felt old.
I got hooked on prescription painkillers. It was like I could not get through the continuous headache pain without them. I prayed and prayed but they would not go away. I had bottled up so much agony. You see, I was Julie’s husband and father of four children. I felt it was my responsibility to protect my family. Yet I could not stop the cancer.
I sought the Lord and asked several men to meet with me regularly to encourage me, pray with me, and hold me accountable. This was of great help! I confess that several times during the cancer battle, I lost hope. Seven years is a long time. Several times, I felt that God had abandoned me. Thank heavens, I knew this not to be true since Jesus promised to never leave nor forsake me. I was able to put my trust in "what is written" in the Word of God instead of my emotions or my experience. Once again, here is the Faith Definition:
Faith is choosing to live as though the Bible is true, regardless of circumstances, emotions, or cultural trends.
Julie died at home where she wanted to be with all of her family near her. She could no longer breathe since the cancer had invaded her lungs. The morphine and oxygen weren't helping anymore. She told me she wanted to go home to be with Jesus. And on that mid June afternoon, she did. We would have been married twenty years, missing our anniversary by only seven days.
I am learning that living by faith in the Lord Jesus is never easy. It is so hard sometimes, especially when life comes at you like a tsunami! Yet, our Savior and Great Shepherd is the One who holds us secure. He lights the way when the way is dark, and the path is rough. He knows we can’t make it on our own. I am slowly learning that He is my life; not my circumstances. Only He satisfies my soul. My trust must remain in Him.
Adapted from Chapter 3 “Jim’s Rowboat Story” from Remember the Rowboats; Anchor your Marriage to Christ  by Jim and Barbara Grunseth                       jgrunseth@centurylink.net

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